Relationships
CF and relationships
Just like everyone else, most of us CFers long for a relationship. Someone who accompanies you through life, someone to share all the beautiful and bad moments. Is it possible to have a "normal" relationship with CF as well? Is CF an obstacle and pushes others away from us? No, it doesn't. You find already? With the right partner this won't be a problem, believe me.
The way of love
You probably have been disappointed in your life already when it comes to love. Unfortunately, it is the same for all of us. But this is the way of love. Love is so beautiful, it gives us a lot, can change a life, but also makes us vulnerable. Sooner or later we have to reckon with that, whether argument or separation, we are usually not always spared from it. Nevertheless, love is the most beautiful feeling we can experience. Nothing is nicer than knowing that there is a person here who loves you. The way you are, with everything you have.
Love and CF
Is it possible to experience the same love with CF? Yes of course! You might think that a partner would not be able to cope with you and CF. What if I am often in hospital, does she go then? What if he/she learns that I cannot have children? Is it over then?
I'm telling you, you worry too much. Of course it can happen that someone does not get along with it. But then that person wouldn't be the right one either. True love is blind, they say. In our favour. If you really love someone, it doesn't matter if this person has something or not. You cannot control love, it comes and goes whether you like it or not. Fact is, many of us are in a happy and "normal" relationship, even if we are in hospital or at home on oxygen. None of this matters!
How to inform you partner?
It is certainly not the easiest thing to inform someone new about CF. I myself have been in this situation a few times. I would like to tell you the following: Be honest and open. Do not conceal anything, answer the questions of your partner honestly. Tell how it is to live with it, tell what is difficult, but also mention the advantages and everything you have learned from CF (and there are many, I am sure). You are afraid of his reaction. But such moments can also bond. Usually you find a good moment to address such a topic without overwhelming your partner. I've never had any problems with it in my years, and everyone understood and supported me. This only because I communicated openly about it. But also show understanding if the partner needs a little time to process the new experience. Be courageous, you can do it! I believe in you!
The way of love
You probably have been disappointed in your life already when it comes to love. Unfortunately, it is the same for all of us. But this is the way of love. Love is so beautiful, it gives us a lot, can change a life, but also makes us vulnerable. Sooner or later we have to reckon with that, whether argument or separation, we are usually not always spared from it. Nevertheless, love is the most beautiful feeling we can experience. Nothing is nicer than knowing that there is a person here who loves you. The way you are, with everything you have.
Love and CF
Is it possible to experience the same love with CF? Yes of course! You might think that a partner would not be able to cope with you and CF. What if I am often in hospital, does she go then? What if he/she learns that I cannot have children? Is it over then?
I'm telling you, you worry too much. Of course it can happen that someone does not get along with it. But then that person wouldn't be the right one either. True love is blind, they say. In our favour. If you really love someone, it doesn't matter if this person has something or not. You cannot control love, it comes and goes whether you like it or not. Fact is, many of us are in a happy and "normal" relationship, even if we are in hospital or at home on oxygen. None of this matters!
How to inform you partner?
It is certainly not the easiest thing to inform someone new about CF. I myself have been in this situation a few times. I would like to tell you the following: Be honest and open. Do not conceal anything, answer the questions of your partner honestly. Tell how it is to live with it, tell what is difficult, but also mention the advantages and everything you have learned from CF (and there are many, I am sure). You are afraid of his reaction. But such moments can also bond. Usually you find a good moment to address such a topic without overwhelming your partner. I've never had any problems with it in my years, and everyone understood and supported me. This only because I communicated openly about it. But also show understanding if the partner needs a little time to process the new experience. Be courageous, you can do it! I believe in you!
Do you have questions?
If you have any questions about this topic, or just want to talk to someone independent, please feel free to contact me. Maybe I can give you some tips (or you can give me some). Sometimes such situations seem a bit desperate, let me help you. I look forward to hearing from you.
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